Does anybody really know what they are doing?
I’m beginning to understand that the answer to this is: No. I have spent years upon years developing my understanding of the human brain. People’s understanding of this so-called-thing called life, how they react to it, why they do and just what it is that makes each one their own person.
You see, I have always been a psych and sociology junkie. Even in university, I took these courses outside of my degree in global development so that I could better educate myself on the thought processes of why humanity acted as it did in history. People fascinate me (people including myself), and the most intrinsic part of it all, is quite literally the fact that not one single adult has any recollection of how they became an adult or when they began to feel that way.
Why? Well, I feel it’s rather simplistic. We don’t have a bloody clue what it is that we are doing!
Even in the midst of a global pandemic, we are in chaos. We are lost without direction or routine. We used to think that we had it all sorted out with plans for a big house, a spouse, a family, a career… Sure! We’re checking all of the “I am a big kid now” boxes. Toss in a little self-isolation requirements and the need so sanitize EVERYTHING and now what??
We do not fucking know.
A mass Costco shop overstocking our life? Surely a Costco membership insistently screams adulthood, but no amount of toilet paper can ever define your level of success in this day and age (or might it). The truth is.. WE DON’T! Do you?? Because if you do then hunny give me whatever you’ve been drinking to figure it out because my weekly box of wine ain’t doin’ it for me.
I believe the thing that has kept me sane throughout all of this is learning to simplify every aspect of my life. I began writing down everything that I needed to accomplish, I began writing my schedule, creating my own routine in the home, checklists upon checklists of wants, needs, “maybe laters”, and more. Ultimately, this created a sense of importance in my life. I adapted, and in doing so I maintained a level of sanity that some may not be able to admit to having today going into this second wave. You would be lying to me if you were not in absolute dismay considering the possibility of potentially having to stay at home for another 3 months.
So yes, this crazy thing called adulthood… How did we get here? We don’t quite know. What the hell are we doing? I don’t quite believe that we know the answer to that either. What do I know? Well, I know that this world survives on a list of wants and needs. I know that I am at peace when I write those things down, make plans to execute each one and decide how I am going to handle them.
Simplify your life. Literally. Write down each obstacle, task, goal, dream, desire… Put pen down on to a piece of paper and track every little thing that you tackle. Bring your own sense of routine into your life and readapt the way that you view your life. “Adulting” is as simple as knowing what you need to do and prioritizing it ahead of getting blackout wasted without clean sheets on your beds (Men, I know you’re guilty of this) or your clothes hung in the closet.
Do what needs to get done, enjoy the little things along the way and for the love of all things good in this world, keep your weekly box of wine readily available. Hell, maybe even have two.
Neesh Media 